Is three months too short a time to plan a wedding?
November 18, 2009
My fiance wants to get married in the first week of April this year, partly because I suggested asking his dad to walk me down the aisle and it’s the only week he is free in the whole year. We had also decided we either wanted a spring or a autumn wedding at his late grandmother’s house (It’s huge)
I think 3 months is too short to plan a wedding especially as we have only been engaged a week but we’ve have been together 7 years.
Nope it is possible.
Call venues you like and see what their packages are and if they have any cancelations.
you can usually get a deal too if someone cancels.
23 Responses to “Is three months too short a time to plan a wedding?”
i would say good luck on that one – if you really try hard then it should be possible but you won’t get excatly what you want
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By elmleaquack on Nov 18, 2009
Um…it’s too short for me but if you’re highly organized and efficient you can make it work.
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By "I said WE!" on Nov 18, 2009
If the wedding is not going to be overly huge, it is doable. You will probably have issues finding someone to book for your cake and music if you don’t get on the ball now. It will probably be pretty stressful but like I said if there is not that many guests you should be able to pull it off. I hope you have enough hair on your head left on your wedding day. lol, just kidding good luck, definately get started now.
look at it this way, my sister told us she was getting married on a friday, she got married that sunday, imagine how crazy we were….you have got plenty of time to put something medium sized and lovely together….get those invites out A.S.A.P pick up a copy of bridalguide magezine and read their wedding countdown check list it will help you check off what you need to get done…it goes for a 1 year check list though, so you have some catching up to do…you can do it though, take a deep breath and plan, plan, plan!!
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By Mrs. Holly 2010 on Nov 18, 2009
Nope, it can be done just call venues NOW to book because the first week of Jan is wedding madness week (a lot of people get engaged at Christmas/NY) and wedding fair shows are all lined up this month.
I am planning mine- got engaged Dec 16 and getting married march 1. We both knew what we wanted so its a matter of booking things. As long as you’re not indecisive (have to try on a million dresses, go all over the place looking at different venues, etc) you should be fine.
Congrats
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By Starlet on Nov 18, 2009
Nope it is possible.
Call venues you like and see what their packages are and if they have any cancelations.
you can usually get a deal too if someone cancels.
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By bandyemmie on Nov 18, 2009
It will be tough, but can be done, congrats, and good luck!!
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By lindyxx2000 on Nov 18, 2009
Well, it depends on how specific you want things and how resourceful you are.
For example, you will more than likely need to buy your dress off the rack. It can take up to 6 months to order and then alter a traditional wedding dress.
You don’t have an issue with venue, so that’s a good first step (many are booked even a year in advance). Now the question is if you can find all the vendors you’ll need in that amount of time.
So it can be done, but you might need to make some concessions on certain things.
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By Miz Sara on Nov 19, 2009
nooo u just have to work REALLY hard to plan it
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good luckk:)))
By Hollister_kw_2313 @ on Nov 19, 2009
yes it’s short time. but if you’re having a small wedding then you should be able to throw something together in that time. It most likely won’t be a huge grand affair with attention paid to minute detail.
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By Invisigoth on Nov 19, 2009
I think you would manage, we had a year to plan our wedding and still done most of it in the last couple of months!!!!
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By Lindsey M on Nov 19, 2009
GET A WEDDING PLANNER!!!!! Trust me on that one. I know that they’re a little expensive, but it will save you so much hassle that you will be utterly grateful. I think that it can be done if you’re willing to make some concessions. Good luck, and congratulations.
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By ladyd2206 on Nov 19, 2009
Hire a wedding planner. They can definitely make it happen (if that’s when you want to get married.) They can solve so many problems for you. Especially if you’re a busy bride. But if you’re planning this wedding alone, I say 3 months is not enough time.
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By TAlex88 on Nov 19, 2009
No it’s enough time if you sit down and plan it right the first time. Planning a wedding for a whole year can turn out badly so just focus and you’ll get it right with enough time
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By Nooky on Nov 19, 2009
No, you can plan a wedding in three months. You just need to prioritize and maybe make some sacrifices here and there.
Try and invite as few people as you can. Planning a 50-guest wedding in three months is doable, but planning a 200-guest wedding in three months will be a disaster. Try to keep it under 100, tops. The further under 100 you can get, the better.
You already have a ceremony/reception site, right (the house)? So get an officiant next. Then take care of any rentals you’ll need – tables and chairs, linens and china, power generator, portable bathrooms, a tent, a dance floor, speakers and electric cords, etc.
Talk to the city and see if you’ll need noise, alcohol/food, or parking permits for an event at a private home. Also talk to the neighbors and ask if the noise will bother them, and if it’s possible for people to park on your street without a problem. You might need to get your guests to park in a nearby lot, like a church or school parking lot, and then figrue out a way to shuttle them to your house.
You’ll need a caterer as well – don’t try to do all the food yourselves unless you’ll have under about 20 people in total there. The caterer might also be able to include tables, linens, china, etc., in your package price, or you might be able to coordinate your rentals through them instead of dealing with 10 separate companies yourself. If you can’t afford or don’t want a wedding caterer, get the food from local restaurants, delis or supermarkets, or even something like Boston Market.
Also find a quality photographer ASAP. They book fast, so find someone who’s free in three months. If you don’t have your wedding on a Saturday, you may increase your chances of finding an available person. Look into photojournalists as well, since they may not usually photograph weddings and therefore might not book up as quickly.
You can get a dress from a department store, through Target.com or jcrew.com or anntaylor.com or nordstrom.com, off the rack at David’s Bridal, a sample dress from a bridal salon, a thrift shop, eBay, preownedweddingdresses.com, savethedress.com, or borrow one from a friend. Or just wear a great dress, not necessarily in white, that you already own or have bought off-the-rack for the wedding. The groom can easily rent a tux or suit within three months, or can buy a new one. A shirt, tie, khakis and a blazer will do for a casual wedding, too. A veil can be borrowed or bought off eBay or made with Walmart tulle, shoes and jewelry can be borrowed or bought cheaply from a department store.
Party and stationery shops can get you cheap and fast invites, or buy a do-it-yourself kit from Target or Staples. You should send them out about 6 weeks prior to the wedding. Don’t forget money for postage.
Talk to some local florists, or a supermarket-based florist, and get flower quotes. Only get bouquets and boutonnieres and corsages for the bridal party and immediate family – cut out excess arrangements and floral centerpieces to keep it simple and cheap. Or buy flowers from a grocery store or farmers’ market the day before or the morning of, and make the bouquets yourselves.
Cake can be ordered from a local bakery or supermarket. Or serve another dessert, like cupcakes or ice cream or pie. Or just cut out dessert. You could get large containers of ready-made coffee from Dunkin Donuts. Buy sodas and bottled water (and beer and wine, if you want it) in bulk from Costco, and keep them in galvanized tubs or coolers full of ice and let people help themselves.
See if you can find a band or DJ that’s available – try bands that play at local bars instead of a "wedding" band. Or a student who DJs on weekends. Or just plug in a laptop or boom box to a speaker system and run your own playlist. You don’t have to have dancing, but background music is nice for ambience so there’s not total silence. You could also have a live musician play in the background – acoustic guitar, violin or cell or a string trio, flute, harp, piano/keyboard, etc. See if college music students are available.
You don’t need programs, menus, favors, aisle runner, garter, etc. – cut them and you will save yourself time, money and stress. Concentrate on the food, drinks and chairs, because guests will notice that the most. And whether you’re happy and gracious. Other than that, they won’t notice what’s not there.
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By casper4 on Nov 19, 2009
It’s possible. It will be stressful, but it is most definitely possible. A friend of mine got engaged right before Thanksgiving 2007 and was married January 19, 2008. They had about two months to plan and it was gorgeous. As you don’t need to worry about a venue, just check on the necessary vendors. Her wedding had about 150 people and went quite smoothly. You just might need to rely on others to help a bit more than if you had a year to plan. Her mother was a huge help to her. Best of luck and congrats!
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By Lily8407 on Nov 19, 2009
No its not to short of time. Loads of time. If his dad can be bothered to take time out for his own sons wedding then its a jolly poor show. We had people take time out from all over the world to ours. Get on with it and all the very best.
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By MICHAEL D on Nov 19, 2009
That is an extremely short time for most people, who usually need at least a year to plan. It can be done, however. The only thing about having a short time to plan is that you either have to have a lot of money to have a big wedding, or have a small wedding if you don’t have much money.
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By Bride2Be-10/3/2009 on Nov 19, 2009
it will be easy dont you worry.
you already have a reception venue!!
if i were you (and i may get thumbs down for this) but go for a mid-week wedding. we are getting married on a wednesday and i have had no trouble getting any vendors at all because most are booked up for the weekend or the saturday (so even try a sunday or friday wedding)
but if you think its not long enough, then thats where your problem lies. one can only do what one belives that can achieve.
buy your wedding dress off the rack. you need to book the important things soon if this is what you want.
church/registry office
food
dj
photography
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By LBB-06/05/09 on Nov 19, 2009
I’m doing it in 5 months and stressed beyond belief. It depends on how compromising you can be on your venue, food, photographer, etc. Many places are booked!
I think if you want to do it you can. Good luck! Dress shop NOW!
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By belle on Nov 19, 2009
get started now an plan your wedding. i hope you both have a lovely day
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By champagne on Nov 19, 2009
It’s pushing it but it can be done. Phone your local register office and ask them if there is a vacancy on the day you want and then take it from there.
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By sashs.geo on Nov 19, 2009
We planned our wedding in 7 weeks so I would say that planning a wedding in 3 months would be fine. If I’m truthful we planned our wedding in a fortnight and then waited 5 weeks for the day to come around!
It really depends upon the type of wedding you want – if you want a big whit traditional wedding you may have slightly limited choice on your suppliers but this really is a positive – if only two caterers are available rather than seven it is much easier to choose! If you are planning something less conventional it is easier to plan in a shorter space of time (I wore an off the peg dress and held the reception in a local restaurant).
That said, if you think 3 months is too short to plan a wedding then it may well be – if you are the kind of person who obsesses over detail and has to find the right shade of butterfly for your napkin rings I would suggest you wait. If you think the details are overrated and the marriage ceremony is the important part you’ll be fine!
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By hmjclarke on Nov 19, 2009
I think it is possible but woah thats gonna be hard work! I have been planning our wedding for over a year and Im still getting the last bits and pieces sorted out. use websites like http://www.theknot.com which will help you plan your wedding. Good luck and all the best! XX
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By monkey on Nov 19, 2009