Wedding Planning

i am currently planning a wedding..we are doing it for october 2009. my fiance is in the marines..he is going to try to get leave time for that weekend. he told me to continue planning even though there can be a chance where plans will have to be changed because i dont know where he will be in 3 months…5 months…especially a year out…but you make due with what you got…it is the military so you arent totally sure on the time but i say for you, plan for his 10 days off if thats what you want to do..if not have him build up some leave time when he is done with training and settled until you make a date.
best of luck! hope your plans turn out well..hope mine will :/but remember theres always a possibility that your plans may not turn out right unless you have the given 10 days off..and it is the military…
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By =) on Oct 21, 2009

Planning a wedding to a military person is the same as planning a wedding with any person with a demanding career. You just have to plan it for those days when he knows he will be able to take leave. Even though we are at war, no chain-of-command is going to deny him time off to get married and have a honeymoon. It VERY seldom happens and when it does it is because the person is critically needed at the time.

It takes some work on his part. Tell him to find out from his chain-of-command EXACTLY when his class dates are, have him put in a leave request NOW and specify on it that the leave is to GET MARRIED and he will have no problems!
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By VidaLoca on Oct 21, 2009

go to a justice of the peace.. you go and get your marriage license at the court house and then get a JP to perform the ceremony.. ..that is how my husband and i did it a year ago.. it took us 2 days. he is in the military as well. we are both from PA so we plan on taking a trip home in the future to have a celebration with our family.

if you are looking to get married so that you can go with your fiance and get the extra money and benefits while he is away.. i suggest to do it this way. you do not need a big expensive wedding to be married. good luck
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By liz741 on Oct 21, 2009

Really, if you can’t figure this out, I don’t think you’re destined to be a military wife. Wives of soldiers must think quick and act fast, without blinking. You have a weekend in December and 10 days later on; what’s the problem? Get a license and get married. I threw my wedding together, start to finish, in 4 days.

My suggestion is wedding in December, honeymoon for 10 days later.

Is this more about the marriage or the party? Goodluck and congrats.
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By Scott K on Oct 21, 2009

The real question is if you want to get married now or later. See what he wants.

As to wedding planning – just tell him the time and place to show up in uniform. You do the rest of the work.
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By jmansfield65 on Oct 21, 2009

Holy crap, this is exactly how I had to do it back in 2005! And i started around now. I did the very basics. He was home for Christmas so we had a Christmas Eve wedding.

We had it at our chuch, not only was it the only time he had to come home, but the church was already decorated for the holiday so that saved us a ton of money!!

We had the reception in the church hall becuz being members, we got it for free.

I had a friend who managed a florist at the time and she gave me a phenomenal deal on the bouteneers, bouquets and mothers corsages.

I did not get an altar piece because the church already had one for Christmas.

The food was potluck provided by moms, aunts and godmothers.

I bought my dress off the rack at a deep discount cuz it was the last one.

One of the church’s musicians played the guitar for us and didnt take payment cuz it was a Christmas/ wedding gift from him.

My mother made my bridesmaids’ dresses @ $60 each.
My veil was $20 from an Asian dress store.
My boots were $25 from Walmart.

My husband and his best man wore their Class A’s, the other groomsmen wore suits of their choice.

All told, our wedding cost us around $500. I had a month and a half to plan. I thought it was gonna be a shambles, but if you simplify it and ask friends and family for help, it WILL work.

They will understand that you have no time, lots of stress and an inflexible Army time frame.

Good luck, try not to stress, ask for help and enjoy your day with your hubby before he has to leave again. Believe me it’s hard. The first 2 years of our marriage we didnt live together. Blessings to you.

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By spookybee1074 on Oct 21, 2009

it really isnt easy…with the military the difference is… anything can change at any moment. if you plan it too far ahead deployment dates can be changed (and often are), field opperations can pop up, etc..

my husband proposed to me at his basic training graduation and we got married right after he graduated AIT…. about 3 months to prepare!

it was a rush but worth it.

good luck

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By Jordyns Mommy *Due Dec. 1st* on Oct 21, 2009

Mortal combat is that not a video game? I never heard of that in the military. Get married after he gets to his first base, is that really that hard?
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By dankohner1 on Oct 21, 2009

For me… it was a pain in the fanny, but for him it was easy…. he just had to show up!

I relied a lot on my mom and my girlfriends to help work out all of the details… the flowers, the invites, the reception, all of it. I sent him to a tux place where he was based to get measurements and they sent them to the rental place where I lived, so that helped on that front. And he had to make the hotel reservations for our wedding night… again, no bid deal on his part. His mom and I actually planned the honeymoon (gotta love the woman!!) and she organized the rehersal dinner.

Actually, now it wouldn’t be that bad… he can see pics of everything and make choices over the internet. We didn’t have that luxury 20 years ago… had to rely on descriptions of everything.

Just relax and call in all your friends… you’ll have a great time planning and getting everything ready. And he’ll love just having to show up!!
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By usafbrat64 on Oct 21, 2009